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Lead your home the way you already lead at work.

You run the crew. You make the hard calls. Then you walk in the door and go quiet. These 6 short emails show you why, and what a good man does instead.

Marine Corps veteranHusband for 16 yearsDad of 4More than 50 men coached
Start with email 1.It lands in your inbox in about 5 minutes.
Sound familiar?

You lead all day. Then you get home and wait.

  • You make hard calls at work in minutes. At home you put them off for months.
  • When she's upset, you go quiet, give in, or leave the room.
  • You stay busy so you don't have to deal with it.
  • You wait for her to change first.
  • You tell yourself you're keeping the peace.

It isn't peace. It's passivity, and she can feel it.

A nice man keeps the peace. A good man does what's best for his family, even when it's hard.

Ben Killoy
What's inside

6 emails. One at a time.

  1. She is not the problem. Your fear of her is.Going quiet when she's upset isn't patience. It's fear dressed as kindness.
  2. She can feel when you are keeping score.The quiet ledger in your head, and why it's costing you her trust.
  3. She stopped asking for your opinion. Did you notice?Decisive at work, passive at home, and what it costs your marriage.
  4. The verse that ended my excuse-making.Ephesians 5:25, and why the husband goes first.
  5. She is not failing. She is exhausted.What she has been carrying while you waited.
  6. They are taking notes right now.What your kids are learning about marriage by watching you.

Short. Plain. Rooted in Scripture.

The work

Own it. Earn trust. Lead.

Own it.

Stop waiting for her to change first. The problem is yours to fix.

Earn trust.

Small, steady wins before any big talk.

Lead.

Decide where your family is going, before the hard conversation.

What the men say

Men who did the work.

Who's writing

I did it too.

On August 4, 2011, my life changed. Nothing in the Marine Corps prepared me for it.

Less than a year into our marriage, my wife's father died. I stood next to her grief and didn't have a word for it. She closed off. I pulled away. For three years I blamed his death. I blamed her. I was present but miles away.

Then I asked for help. God put good men and coaches in my path. I learned I was the variable. That meant I was also the solution.

I've coached more than 50 men through this since. Marine Corps veteran. Raised on a farm in Darien, Wisconsin. Husband for 16 years. Dad of 4.

Your kids are watching how you lead at home.

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